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About Me

I’m a Catholic woman, wife & home-schooling mother. I live in the West of Ireland with my husband of 9 years and our four children.

I have struggled with perfectionism, emotional regulation, feeling resentment towards my duties and obligations, people pleasing, feeling overburdened and overly responsible for others, an inability to rest and relax, feelings of guilt or shame in caring for myself, occasionally feeling unfulfilled in my role as a mother even though I feel it is my true vocation, feeling disconnected in many of my relationships, food addiction, as well as post-natal depression. 

Our purpose is to know, love & serve God. He desires our happiness now and for all eternity. There are many things that can distract us from our purpose or get in the way of our internal peace, including our inherited misunderstandings - whether we are aware of these or not. 

I have learned, with the grace of God, to navigate these struggles and to let go of what was holding me back. If you’d like to learn more about how I have changed my life to experience more consistent joy, peace and contentment, I hope my writings may help you do that. I’m sharing my experiences and imperfect progress in the hope that others may find solace in knowing they are not alone with the challenges the vocation of motherhood presents today. And that many of the solutions lie within our control.

It is my desire that you find help in what I share and can adapt what I have done in order to suit your own life and circumstances. You are the expert in your life. You have the power, with God’s help, to change it for the better. It is my desire - and God’s - that you can thrive and be joyful in this life and enjoy eternal bliss forever in the next.

May God be your ever-present guide. Take care of you and Let Truth Bloom.

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