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What We Focus On Increases

What is good and right in your life? 

When we are feeling overwhelmed, overburdened and that life is hard, it can feel too much to even try to find things to be grateful for. It can feel like yet another thing we’re failing at. We know we have much to be grateful for and feeling low, depressed, overwhelmed or not able to cope when we, logically speaking, have so much to be grateful for can add to the guilt we already feel.

Particularly as perfectionists, it can be easy to focus on the 2% we have not achieved. On the flaws. On the problems. On what is not working, not done, not good. On the issues we are facing with our spouse. On the worries we have for our children. On the frustrations we have with others in our lives. 

When our focus is on these things, it can become all we see. Think just for a moment about when you learn you are pregnant, or when desiring to have a baby. Suddenly you begin to see pregnant women and babies everywhere! It is because your mind is focused there.

What we focus on increases.

If our attention is on flaws, on what’s not working, on what’s not done, on what’s not good, on all we have yet to do, we can begin to despair. We can feel burdened. We can feel stretched and overwhelmed. 

But we can learn to switch focus. 

We can learn to see the 2% that is not achieved, but focus on the 98% that is.
We can learn to see the flaws, but focus on the strengths. 
We can learn to see the problems, but focus on the solutions.
We can learn to see how much more growth we have yet to do, but focus on how far we’ve come.
We can learn to see what is not good or right in our lives, but focus on what is.
We can learn to see what may annoy us about our spouse, but focus on what pleases us about them.
We can learn to see our imperfections, but focus on where we are good enough.
We can learn to see the triggers, but focus on the glimmers.

What we focus on increases. 

It is within your control to increase the good in your life. Despite being reminded of the benefits of having “an attitude of gratitude”, it can be difficult to implement practically day to day. 

What if you were to think of writing a Thank You note to God? 
What if, each morning before the day begins, you were to sit and consider all of the things in your life that are good and right? The elements of your life that you would appreciate remaining unchanged? There are some. We have just become distracted. Our focus has been elsewhere.
Dear God, I thank You for all that is good and right in my life, including…

Ask God to help switch your focus so that these things that are already good and right can increase

With our focus on what is good and right, our minds will be free to make imperfect progress: to ponder and act on what is within our control to change. To not only remove obstacles to our happiness, but actively bring about happiness and abundance in our lives.

Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His justice, and all these things shall be added unto you” Matthew 6:33

Focus first on God, the source of all that is good and right. Focus then on self care. Focus on the next right action. Focus on good enough being good enough. 

Focus on what is good and right and it will increase in your life beyond measure.

Take care of you and Let Truth Bloom.

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